The Fruits of the Spirit: Final (A Wife’s Application)

I hesitated to write this series because I knew my husband would be reading it and probably think of all the times I fell short. Or worse, it would point out the hypocrisy within myself. I think I wrote this series for two reasons: first and foremost, to be honest, I needed it. I needed every word in my own life. And second, I wrote this series in the hopes that maybe I’m not the only one who struggles with living out the fruits of the Spirit in my home, and by my transparency and honesty, I could hopefully make a difference.

This series was the most difficult for me to write thus far, because I fall so incredibly short in this area, and fail more often than I succeed.

But I guess that’s kind of the point of my story and what God lays on my heart to share with you. I think it’s a dangerous thing to sit behind this computer screen and teach this stuff from a place of mastering it. The TRUTH is, I’m far from it. So for every word, every proclamation, please know that I am struggling right there along with you. I am so often speaking as if I am looking right into a mirror, just hoping that God will allow it to sink deep within my stone heart and allow it to become flesh again.

Life is hard. Marriage is hard. Being a mom is hard.

And there are times I’ve sat down to try to write out this series and thought to myself, “I struggle so hard reflecting this in my own life, who am I to speak on the subject???”

I write out of vulnerability, not because I’ve mastered the fruits of the Spirit in my marriage, but because I have so much room to grow. But I SEEK it. I desperately seek growth, both in my relationship with God and my marriage.

God showed me more than anything that my being fulfilled comes from Him alone. My husband can do absolutely everything right, and it still wouldn’t be enough for my heart. God created a heart that first and foremost longs for Him (Psalm 42), and when I am trying to fill it with the love of my imperfect human husband, no matter how great his love is for me, it will never match the love of the Creator. And it is out of this perfect love, that my husband and I can love each other more deeply; we will still have shortcomings, but with our focus on God, we lack nothing. (Psalm 23)

I hope that God used this series to speak to your heart as He did mine.

12 Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. 13 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. –Philippians 3:12-14

*Series Adapted by The Fruitful Wife by Hayley DiMarco

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Katie Wimberly She and her husband, Nate, have been married for five years and have a two-year old son, Isaiah. She is a licensed mental health counselor, and currently works for a private counseling agency in Statesville and Taylorsville. She attended Liberty University, where she received a Bachelor’s degree in Biblical Studies, and a Master’s in Professional Counseling. She is passionate about seeing people liberated from things holding them back in life so that they can live the limitless life God has called them to.

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