The Fruits of the Spirit: Faithfulness (A Wife’s Application)

I do not pray for success. I ask for faithfulness.

-Mother Teresa

I often think of faithfulness in terms of whether or not someone is being faithful to their spouse—meaning—I am faithful to my husband because I am not cheating on him. That would be UNFAITHFUL.

But what if being faithful to my spouse means a lot more than that? Of course that is a given; but what if it goes deeper into the day-to-day interactions with my husband?

  1. Faithfulness is doing what is true.

In order to do what is true, we have to know what the truth is, and where we get the truth—God’s Word. Therefore, we cannot be faithful in our relationship with God and our interactions unless we seek to know the Word, because out of it, comes the truth.

I will study your commandments and reflect on your ways. Psalm 119:15

When we understand God’s ways, although we may never understand Him in EVERYTHING completely, we can reflect and study His desires, His character, and His love, that way we can work to emulate Him. Like the moon reflects the sun so that the earth can enjoy the light, we can be a moon that reflects His Son so that we can be a light to our family. Faithfulness has more to do with our devotion to God than man.

  1. You have to have faith to be faithful.

“His faithfulness is essential to our faith, and it leads to our faithfulness.” –Hayley DiMarco

In order to be faithful, we need to have an unwavering faith that our God will take care of us in all situations and circumstances. We also need to have faith in His Word, His guidance, His direction, and in who He is.

  1. Faithfulness agrees with God.

In other words, what He finds sinful, is—no matter what culture says. One of my biggest pet peeves in the history of the world, forever and ever….is when I hear women go on and on about how attractive a man (who is not their spouse) is or commenting on a particular body part and how amazing it is. OH MY GOSH, STOP. Even if it is an actor, STOP. Ladies, you know we can’t stand when our men comment on women in this way. It’s disrespectful for them to do it to us, so same for us. We know how it makes us feel deep down when a guy comments how a certain part looks a certain way, meanwhile we are noticing every flaw in the mirror. JUST STOP. Do you think they don’t do the same? Just because they act fine, doesn’t mean they are fine. Keep your eyeballs to yourself, just like we expect them to. And by the way, to God, this is sin (Mt. 5:27-30) End of story. Okay, rant over.

Just because you are willing to flaunt your sin, doesn’t make it the same thing as bringing it into the light. Bringing sin into the light is for the purpose of repentance (John 1:6-8)

How do we become more faithful?

Faithfulness and consistency are often the seed for the faithless.

  1. Guard your tongue. Complaining about God’s seeming unfaithfulness produces an unfaithful spirit.  “Is it not from the mouth of the Most High that both calamities and good things come?” (Lam 3:38)
  2. Support him. The Holy Spirit teaches the faithful wife to offer a support that refuses to nag, control, or micromanage her husband.
  3. Control your spending. Being faithful means putting your heart where it belongs—in God’s hands, not in the fleeting and empty things of this world.
  4. Avoid emotional affairs. In the world of social media, this may seem obvious, but it is decidedly unfaithful to have extensive conversations with a member of the opposite sex who is not your husband. Where you invest your time, you invest your heart.
  5. Don’t retaliate. In the flesh, it is easy to want to jump to defend yourself or attack after you have felt attacked, but part of faithfulness means choosing to follow the Word, even when emotions and conflict are on the rise.

“The faithful wife is a blessing for her husband because she is a safe haven for him.” –Hayley DiMarco

*Adapted from The Fruitful Wife by Hayley DiMarco


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Katie Wimberly She and her husband, Nate, have been married for five years and have a two-year old son, Isaiah. She is a licensed mental health counselor, and currently works for a private counseling agency in Statesville and Taylorsville. She attended Liberty University, where she received a Bachelor’s degree in Biblical Studies, and a Master’s in Professional Counseling. She is passionate about seeing people liberated from things holding them back in life so that they can live the limitless life God has called them to.

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