The Fruits of the Spirit: A Wife’s Application (Intro)

“A life filled with the life of God is one that is ever-changing, ever pruning, ever growing, and ever flourishing.” Hayley DiMarco

Ever since God saved my pathetic little life, I have chased after what it means to live a life in Him. Some times have been better than others. There are times where I have been fruitful, and other times have fallen way short. There have been seasons of growth, and then seasons of drought—all the while desperately trying to cleave to the right path in which God has called. And nothing has challenged my spirit more than a particular role has purposed for my life—being a wife. Over the next 9 weeks, I hope to examine each fruit, and outline how we as wives can become better at each one in our marriages.

Marriage is such a beautiful thing, isn’t it? The teachings of our culture often tell us to run the other direction when you “fall out of love” or endure hardships. However, a godly marriage endures all; even more than that, God calls us to thrive with this person.

Your marriage is a direct reflection of how you are bearing fruit of the Holy Spirit in your life.


13 You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. 14 For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” 15 If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.

16 So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. 17 For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other so that you are not to do whatever you want. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.

19 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity, and debauchery; 20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. 24 Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. 26 Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.

Galatians 5:13-26


The war between the flesh and the spirit is an intense and tragic one. Our battle strategy: being immersed in the Word, drenched in the humility God’s Spirit brings, and quick to NOT act out of our emotional center.

This is tough for me. I tend to react to life as it is dealt to me, and the best advice I have ever been given was to “Be still.” (Thanks Sandy ;)) But seriously, if I allow this to be my mantra, I can take a deep breath and allow God to work through the situation.

Living by the fruits of the Spirit is to live a life against pleasure-seeking or pleasing self, but to deny the self and give all the glory to God.


What my husband and I agreed on when we first got married, and what we constantly remind each other, is that we’ve got each other’s backs. We say that, “I can’t see my own back to try to cover it, but I can see yours clearly, so instead of trying to cover my own back, I’ve got yours and you’ve got mine.”


“We must understand that without the life of Christ in us, any fruit worth producing is not sustainable.” -Hayley DiMarco


*Adapted from The Fruitful Wife by Hayley DiMarco


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Katie Wimberly She and her husband, Nate, have been married for five years and have a two-year old son, Isaiah. She is a licensed mental health counselor, and currently works for a private counseling agency in Statesville and Taylorsville. She attended Liberty University, where she received a Bachelor’s degree in Biblical Studies, and a Master’s in Professional Counseling. She is passionate about seeing people liberated from things holding them back in life so that they can live the limitless life God has called them to.

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