Aren’t you Supposed to have it Together by Now?

There was a panel. On the panel was a 20 year old, a 30 year old, a 40 year old, a 50 year old, a 60 year old, and a 70 year old. They were each asked one question: What is most important to you? They each answered:


The 20 year old: Finishing school.

The 30 year old: Working on my career.

The 40 year old: Raising my family.

The 50 year old: Working towards retirement.

The 60 year old: That I’m healthy and properly insured.

The 70 year old: Making final legacy decisions and arrangements.

I don’t know about you, but I often get plagued with a single question… “aren’t you supposed to have it together by now?” (Key phrase being “supposed to”.)

However, these are all valid seasons. Every season is as important as another. They just hold a different focus.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under the heavens.” Solomon in all of his God-bestowed wisdom still has relevance today as most people struggle under societal pressure (or straight rebellion of it) in order to ensure they have all of their ducks in a row.

And maybe God throws it all out of whack and throws us off our game. Take my parents for instance. I love sharing their story because it is a perfect example of how amazing God is at throwing us off our axis in the best way possible. And I’m so glad they gave me permission to share it.

My parents owned a prominent company for the majority of my life, which in turn caused us to move into the area. They would even admit that they got sucked into the “keeping up with the Joneses” mentality. Because, you see, there’s something you’ve got to know before I move forward. Even though my parents believed there was a God, they didn’t really have a relationship with Him. So for years, my parents chased after the golden cow–to have more and be more successful in business. And I watched through high school (after coming to Christ myself) and finally saw how unbelievably unhappy and unfulfilled they were.

Over the next couple of years, my mom and dad both had a life-altering relationship with Jesus. Mom and Dad weren’t “supposed to” decide to leave their business to start new careers at the age of 45 (after pouring their blood, sweat, and tears into it for 15 years.) Mom and Dad weren’t “supposed to” convert their almost 3,000 sq. ft. house into a rental property and build a 1,400 sq. ft. house in the country. They weren’t “supposed to” turn their passion for buying “stuff” to giving it all to those who don’t have. But God works best outside of our “supposed to’s”.

I’m not saying it’s bad to be successful in business. I’m also not saying it’s bad to have a big house. If God places you in a position of prominence, that is an AWESOME thing, but what are you chasing after? Because, my friend, you were made for a lot more than worrying about your house or retirement. Is it wise to prepare? ABSOLUTELY. But don’t lose sight of what God has created you for just because of the often necessary day-to-day things. In Him you won’t have to worry about having it all together, because Christ is the One who holds all things together (Colossians 1:17).


You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore. Psalm 16:11


Katie Wimberly She and her husband, Nate, have been married for five years and have a two-year old son, Isaiah. She is a licensed mental health counselor, and currently works for a private counseling agency in Statesville and Taylorsville. She attended Liberty University, where she received a Bachelor’s degree in Biblical Studies, and a Master’s in Professional Counseling. She is passionate about seeing people liberated from things holding them back in life so that they can live the limitless life God has called them to.

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